My opinions
If a person cannot play at least 30 songs they are not ready to be in a band yet. A person has to be serious about playing for a long time to be able to do that. Those people are ready to invest the time it takes to be a band. Yes a band, not a jam group. A lot of short lived bands come from jam groups.
People in jam groups have no responsibility to the group they are much harder to get together in one place at the same time. The point of jamming is having fun, but fun turns into work if no one knows the same songs. This goes back to already knowing how to play a few songs. If three guys get together to jam and all three know 5 to 7 of the same songs… You can at least jam for an hour or two.
Starting a band is like learning the open F chord.
Have patients be prepared to work for it, try different ways and give it break for a few days here and there. In the long run it will be worth it. There is no short run; you can’t make an F chord any faster than you can.
Reading your post, it sounds like you are in a jam group still and that’s good. That means you do not have to quit looking for other people to jam with. You might even find others with more interest like yourself.
No reason to drop your current jam mates, you learn more and more at each jam. Understand it for what it is and use it to grow.
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