Rich, you were the standout musician in the music school band, and to take it to the next level I think you need to a) decide what type of music you want to play yourself and then b) surround yourself with people who want to be in on your project (even if that means saying goodbye to some current members). Personally I think someone needs to call the shots in any developing band and that person should be you. But what do I know......? Good luck with it all, Steve